Advice to a friend - on perfectionism

This one’s for the in-denial perfectionists.

For the people who are constantly hard on themselves... who hold high standards but sometimes turn them too far inward, until they become more of a hindrance than a help:

It’s not all on you to have everything figured out.

The world won’t stop turning if you don’t show up to that work meeting at 100%, or if you stutter while telling a joke to your friends, or even if you drop the ball for a few days with work, your goals, or just life. You don’t have to be perfect all of the time.

You constantly expect 150% from yourself, while accepting 50% from others. You take on too much self-blame, leaving no space for the fact that you’re a living, breathing human with your own struggles, triggers, and messiness.

You have dreams. You’re ambitious. You want to achieve.But sometimes, you stand in your own way — you self-destruct. Or maybe life just happens, and you can’t keep running at the same pace you’re used to. There’s a time for tough love and discipline, but there’s also a time to slow down, to listen to your intuition, and to rest. You owe it to yourself to offer the same kindness you so freely give to everyone else.

You need to love and accept yourself — to meet yourself exactly where you are. It's

okay to be imperfect. It’s okay to ask for help. You don't have to be so fucking strong all the time, or hide the parts of you that feel like weaknesses. You're not meant to carry the weight of the world alone - and you're definitely not superwoman. So don't try to be.

Keep showing up exactly as you are... on the good days and the hard ones. Because the right people, the right places, and the right moments will always make space for you at the table.

Love, Oddball xo